Queens Don’t Beg Nor Sit At The Feet Of A King: Build Confidence & Attract a Partner Who Honors You

True sisterhood seekers, I don't know about you, but I know I am tired of seeing men depict women this way. Or women falling to the prey of certain expectations that are gaslit upon them. You've seen it in movies, music videos, society, blah, blah, blah. Why is it illustrated for women to keep seeing this to over-program what their place should be in the world? Sitting on the floor at a man's feet like a dog that has been translated to bitch. A unintelligent term of which is overused, and detrimently abused by many societies and the mantras aka songs you've heard over and over again. Words are spells and actions have consequences depending on what you choose. The imbalance of feminity and masculinity is the result to the imbalaces you witness in the world. So why not start looking within.

How to Attract Healthy Love by Loving Yourself First

Let’s get real for a second—if you don’t love yourself, how do you expect anyone else to? I too relate to this in that we as women sometimes find ourselves caught in toxic cycles, pouring love into people who treat them like an option while we’re giving our everything. If you’ve ever felt like you were bending over backward just to be chosen, this is your wake-up call: The healthiest love starts from within.

To learn the secret to attracting a relationship that honors you, respects you, and uplifts you is learning to honor, respect, and uplift yourself first.

Unlearning Toxic Relationship Patterns

Before we talk about what healthy love looks like, we have to address the elephant in the room—past conditioning. Many of us grew up with examples of love that were more about survival than connection. We were taught to accept breadcrumbs, to overextend ourselves, and to put everyone else’s happiness above our own.

But here’s the truth: If love is making you shrink, it’s not love. If it’s making you question your worth, it’s not love. If it’s requiring you to prove yourself constantly, it’s definitely not love.

To unlearn toxic patterns, you have to first acknowledge them:

🚫 Stop romanticizing struggle love– Love isn’t meant to be a battlefield. It should feel safe, not like a constant test of your worth.

🚫 Stop chasing people who give you mixed signals– You deserve consistency, not confusion. If they wanted to, they would.

🚫 Stop believing you have to “earn” love– You are inherently worthy of love just by being you. Love isn’t a reward for suffering.

Healing starts when you shift from thinking you need to be chosen to realizing you are the one who does the choosing.

Cultivating Confidence from Within

Confidence isn’t about how you look or what you have—it’s about knowing who you are and refusing to accept anything less than what you deserve. When you cultivate true self-love, you stop begging for validation because you already knowyour worth.

So, how do you start?

✅ Set Boundaries Like a Queen– If someone’s presence is costing you your peace, it’s too expensive. Learn to say no without guilt.

✅ Pour Into Yourself Daily– Self-care isn’t just bubble baths; it’s making sure your needs are met emotionally, mentally, and physically.

✅ Speak Kindly to Yourself– If your inner voice is your biggest critic, it’s time to change that dialogue. Replace self-doubt with affirmations of self-worth.

✅ Become the Love You Seek– The type of love you crave? Give it to yourself first. Buy yourself flowers. Take yourself on dates. Treat yourself like you are the love of your life—because you are.

Building Your Self-Worth & Attracting Aligned Love

A woman who knows her worth is magnetic. She doesn’t tolerate disrespect, she doesn’t accept less than she deserves, and most importantly—she attracts people who see her, not just for what she can give, but for who she is.

When you stop seeking external validation, something shifts:

✨ You stop feeling desperate for love, and it starts flowing to you naturally.

✨ You stop over-giving to prove your worth, and you start receiving from those who genuinely value you.

✨ You stop fearing being alone, because you realize you are your own best company, 1st.

The key to attracting healthy love isn’t about trying harder, doing more, or bending yourself into someone else’s expectations. It’s about standing firm in your own expectations and trusting that the right person will rise to meet them.

Final Thoughts: You Are the Prize

You don’t have to settle. You don’t have to prove yourself. You don’t have to wait for someone else to see your worth before you believe in it yourself.

Love yourself so deeply that anyone who enters your life is simply adding to the joy you already have. Because the truth is, the more you love yourself, the more you attract the kind of love that mirrors that back to you.

And that, my dear, is how you stop settling and start thriving. Take your RIGHTFUL place!